It’s hard to believe that my baby will be 18 this weekend, the time has just flown by and I don’t know where all those years have gone? When the Teen Techie was only a few weeks old, lots of people said to me “make the most of every moment, because before you know it he will be all grown up” and that is exactly what has happened. If I had that time all over again and knew then, what I know now. I would have trusted my own instinct more, not stressed so much about getting things done and stopped to enjoy those little moments more often.
Sadly, becoming pregnant was not as straight forward as we had first hoped and this is when I discovered I had PCOS, the lifelong companion who would try to take over my body. We fought hard with each other. But, after two long years of upset, an operation and lots of medication my battle had been one. I was finally pregnant and nothing was going to take that prize from me. This special little being inside me was nourished and nurtured getting the best of everything, to ensure the best possible start in life. The PCOS was now dormant and my body and soul was taken over by this fast growing baby inside me. Right from the very beginning he signalled that this pregnancy was going to be on his terms and would be anything other than straightforward. He was positioned upright instead of upside down and was facing outward instead of inwards. Ever since he has always had his feet firmly planted on the ground and always facing forward ready, not wanting to miss anything. Eventually, with several weeks to spare and after lots of prodding and poking by two sonographers with ultra sound wands, he was in the correct position for entry into the world. Very comfortable in his new position, he seemed to be settling in for the duration and was not happy to be forced out by inducement a few weeks later. Exhausted, after many hours of resisting delivery. He was forced into the world on 9th September 1999, while still sound asleep.
Right from day one he did not follow the routine that we had been led to expect. He would not sleep during the day, but slept all night. He was not interested in breast feeding, as the supply would not come fast enough and restricted his ability to see what was happening around him. Thankfully, he happily accepted the bottle and became a brilliant eater. Who, transitioned easily to solids and loved to feed himself. Eventually, he accepted that a nap during the day was beneficial for him and stopped resisting a day time sleep. Which, thankfully did not hinder his ability to sleep right through the night.
Since separating from his father at just six months old. Together we have weathered some traumatic events in our lives and managed to come through it ok. Thinking back, it was the strong bond that we built while weathering these storms that held us together when the hormones hit around age 12 and we entered those terrible teenage years. Yes, we have locked horns and there has been lots of door slamming and stamping of feet. However, as we are fast approach the Teen Techie’s 18th birthday on the weekend. I can thankfully say that we have still managed to have a wonderful relationship that we both cherish.
In the last six months, the change from teen to young adult is very noticeable. We can now have civil conversations about what is happening around the world and our futures. As he prepares to vote in the upcoming nationwide elections, there have been some interesting discussions about politics. With the focus on helping him come to his own conclusions, rather than automatically following our preferences. Yes, I know that there will still be times when we lock horns over a variety of things. Especially, when he starts university next year and will have to manage his need for independence, while still respecting the rules that have been set for our home. I sure hope that this time next year, I can report back that we still have a wonderful relationship.