We’ve all heard the saying “a house is not a home”, but what does that really mean? I thought I would start off by getting an official definition of the two from an online dictionary, Dictionary.com
HOME: a house, apartment, or other shelter that is the usual residence of a person, family, or household. the place in which one’s domestic affections are centred.
HOUSE: a building in which people live; residence for human beings.
In my opinion, a house is the bricks and mortar, an empty shell, or somewhere that we occupy for a brief time that has been dressed by someone else. When we move in our belongings into the bricks and mortar and fill the space with our scents and noises, it becomes a home. A home is the place, where we can truly be ourselves, it continually draws us back to it and is our sanctuary that nourishes our soles and provides refuge from the world.
Depending on your personality and current emotional state, you may be suited to a home environment that is loud, busy and filled with shared spaces. Or you may be more suited to a quiet, peaceful environment that provides lots of personal private spaces and some shared spaces for when you are feeling sociable. Depending on your current circumstances you may not be able to choose where you live and can be left feeling unnurtured by your living environment. If you are a sole that needs lots of quiet private spaces and are living in a dorm, shared flat or bustling family. Or a sociable being that is living alone, the need to find an environment that matches our personality and mood arises. Hence the saying “a home away from home”. This is those places that you are drawn to that nourish your sole. It may be a Café or bar where you are known and can enjoy some private space or socialise with the other patrons and staff members. Sports clubs and hobby communities are also a great haven for those of us that thrive on social interaction. Are you happiest in your home environment or one that needs to search out that “home away from home” to nourish your sole?
For many of us, the place where we live might not be the style of home that we dream of, or look like the many homes that are featured in the latest home and lifestyle magazines. But that does not mean that we cannot turn the houses that we live in, into home that we love.
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