Now that we are heading into the cooler months and hibernation mode. I thought it was an ideal time to launch my blog series HOME which discusses the impact your home has on your emotional health and wellbeing.

We’ve all heard the saying “a house is not a home”, but what does that really mean? I thought I would start off by getting an official definition of the two from an online dictionary, Dictionary.com

HOME: a house, apartment, or other shelter that is the usual residence of a person, family, or household. the place in which one’s domestic affections are centred.

HOUSE: a building in which people live; residence for human beings.

In my way of thinking, a house is the bricks and mortar, an empty shell, or somewhere that we occupy for a brief time that has been dressed by someone else. When we move in our belongings into the bricks and mortar and fill the space with our scents and noises, it becomes a home. A home is the place, where we can truly be ourselves, it continually draws us back to it and is our sanctuary that nourishes our soles and provides refuge from the world. What is your definition of a house and a home?

Depending on your personality and current emotional state, you may be suited to a home environment that is loud, busy and filled with shared spaces. Or you may be more suited to a quiet, peaceful environment that provides lots of personal private spaces and some shared spaces for when you are feeling sociable. Depending on your current circumstances you may not be able to choose where you live and can be left feeling unnurtured by your living environment. If you are a sole that needs lots of quiet private spaces and are living in a dorm, shared flat or bustling family. Or a sociable being that is living alone, the need to find an environment that matches our personality and mood arises. Hence the saying “a home away from home”. This is those places that you are drawn to that nourish your sole. It may be a Café or bar where you are known and can enjoy some private space or socialise with the other patrons and staff members. Sports clubs and hobby communities are also a great haven for those of us that thrive on social interaction. Are you happiest in your home environment or one that needs to search out that “home away from home” to nourish your sole?

For many of us, the place where we live might not be the style of home that we dream of, or look like the many homes that are featured in the latest home and lifestyle magazines. But that does not mean that we cannot turn the houses that we live in, into home that we love. How we do this, is what I’d love to share with you over the next few months, and have drawn up a rough outline of the topics, that I think would be great to share. However, as this blog is all about sharing and supporting each other, I would love for you to share your thoughts, ideas and questions, so that they can be included in the upcoming blog posts.

Jenni XXX

  • Really thoughtful post Jenni..because you have hit on something that is hard for me right now. We sold our house of 18 years which was our family home in 2015 and since then have been living in a rental house in a completely different environment. One day we will buy and settle again but it is not something I am enjoying. I do make where we are as ‘home-like’ as possible but when it’s not that secure, then I feel a bit lost. Thank you for linking up for #lifethisweek 21/52 and next week’s prompt is Hobbies.

    • Thanks for dropping by and sharing your thoughts Denyse. Sometimes we can’t always have that security of residing somewhere that we own, which leave you feeling unsettled. Have you been in the same place since 2015? Are you going to be able to stay in that house, until you purchase again? Do you know how long it will be before you are able purchase again? Taking the time to answer those questions will give you a better understanding as to why you are feeling so unsettled. Being clear about what the problem is, is the largest part of solving the problem. If you would like to chat about this some more, i’m only an email away and would love to help. The next installment of the home series will be on the website this evening, or can be emailed directed to your inbox by signing up for my weekly newsletter. Jenni xxx

  • Oh yes, I can relate to this Jenni as when I made my seachange 4+yrs ago I moved into an apartment that never felt like home. I loved its location and a lot about it but kept making excuses as to why I didn’t feel settled…. too small, not private enough etc…

    It wasn’t until I decided to sell and move that I started house-hunting and realised there’s sometimes a feeling that comes over you when you walk into a place. I’d looked at a house before buying the one I’m in now and something felt wrong about it. I took a friend and she was like… “Meh.” When I brought her to the house I bought she said, “Yes! This is you!” And it is! #home

  • Lovely post Jenni and I definitely subscribe to the home away from home concept – we have several of those. Have you read the lovely book ‘House as Mirror of Self’? If not I think you might enjoy it.

    • Where would we be without our home away from homes Jan? I’ve added “House as Mirror of Self” to my reading list, it looks very interesting. Thanks for the tip off.

  • For me, it’s a feeling – & a collection of memories. Like Deb, we looked at a lot of houses when we were making our sea-change…until we walked into this one & knew we were home. Great topic #teamlovinlife

  • writeofthemiddle

    I agree that a house is just a structure, a place where humans can reside to take shelter. A home is when a house is filled with people, belongings, scents and so forth. I am a real homebody. My home is not a mansion by a long shot but it is my sanctuary, filled with my things and my family. I love to get away now and then, particularly as I adore nature and am fascinated by learning about other cultures and discovering new places. However, home is where I am the most happy and relaxed. 🙂 #TeamLovinLife

    • I’m with you Min, its great to get away and experience different cultures & places, but also great to be home.

  • Great to meet you Jenni! Welcome to the Lovin’ Life Linky. Thanks for sharing.

  • I sometimes feel like, as a renter, you can’t quite make your house into a home properly. Nearly, but not those last few percent.

    • If you are going to be renting in the same place for a while, I think it’s well worth making the effort to put your personal stamp on the place.
      On the cheap, we’ve managed to change the curtains, some light fittings, things in the garden & with permission from the landlord have painted the bedroom walls. If it’s only short term, then make the most of your personal momento’s to make the place feel more like home.

  • I would have to agree that a house is just bricks and mortar, whereas a home is a place you can truly be yourself.
    Thanks for linking up with #MummyMondays

    • Thanks for providing the link up Kell. I’ve had such a great response to my blog posts since joining.

  • Alicia-OneMotherHen

    Well I have heard that ‘love’ makes a house a home. I guess that is the difference, between the two. One is the structure and the home is when the house is filled with personailty and those things which it make it comfortable and pleasing. #openslather