HOW TO ACHIEVE YOUR NEW YEARS RESOLUTION

2018 in fireworks

It’s now a week since the official end of the New Year’s holiday period. So, I thought it was the perfect time to share my end of year reflection and new year’s resolution tips.

 

FAREWELL 2017

I’m a firm believer that if you don’t reflect on what happened in your 2017, you’ll still be hanging onto it all in 2018 and won’t enjoy the benefits of starting the year with a clean slate.

I know that there is a pile of information out there, which states that the time between Christmas and New Year is the best time to reflect and set your goals for the following year. Well, I’m going to strongly disagree with that pile of information. I can’t for the life of me, see how you could possibly be in the right head space at this time of year to tackle this objectively. Surely, waiting until near the end of your holidays, or even soon after you’ve started back to work, would be a better time? Your head will be clear, ready to calmly reflect on your 2017 and able to put things into perspective. Before, drawing a line under them and moving positively into 2018.

 

ASK YOURSELF:

WHAT DO YOU WANT TO LEAVE BEHIND IN 2017?

Think about your relationships, career & lifestyle choices

WHAT SPARKLED IN YOUR 2017?

Celebrate your achievements, acknowledge those who were there for you & identify what your motivation was.

WHAT HAVE YOU LEARNT FROM 2017?

Own the things that you have learnt about yourself. Think about what consumed your time this year, the way it was divvied up and if you would like to do things differently.

 

NEW YEARS RESOLUTIONS

Before I even start to talk about the how to achieve. I want to clarify the difference between resolutions and intentions because this is at the core of why so many of your new year’s dreams fall by the wayside.

RESOLUTIONS: are problems that you have identified in your universe, that you have chosen to resolve and are clear about what those changes will look like.

INTENTIONS: are those more general things that you would like to change but are not driven to resolve, and that is why they easily slip off the to-do list when the holidays are over, and you are once again consumed by your daily routine.

 

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RESOLUTIONS ARE ACHIEVABLE WHEN:

  • They are about you and what you have chosen to commit to in 2018.
  • You are clear about why you want to resolve something and what the changes will look like when you have achieved them. So often the how and when become the focus, which will not provide the motivation to keep you on track when the going gets tough.
  • You write down your resolutions, making sure to include the reason why and what your life will be like once you have achieved it. This will help you to identify the small measurable steps that you will need to complete to get you there.
  • You accept that all your resolutions do not have to be tackled at once. Too many changes at once are likely to overwhelm you and weaken your resolve.
  • You set the achievement bar at a level that you can continually meet. It’s amazing how even the smallest taste of success will motivate you to keep going.
  • You want to stop a bad habit, replacing it with a good habit will fill that void that occurs when you suddenly remove something from your routine. Only replace one habit at a time and don’t tackle another one until the new habit is part of your daily routine.
  • You accept that there will be times when you slip up and that’s ok. Remember that tomorrow is a new day and you can pick up where you left off.
  • You trust your own instincts and be who you want to be.

 

THE POWER OF ONE WORD

In recent years there has also been a lot of hype about choosing a one-word theme that inspires you throughout the year and is often a word that also links your resolutions together. I tried this for the first time last year and found it very beneficial. This year I have chosen the word confidence, as it is something that I have struggled with for a long time and if left unchecked will impede the success of my new business.

Do you take time to reflect on the year that’s been and document resolutions or choose a word for the new year?

 

Jenni XXX

  • I love your word. I like to do what I call a Closing Ceremony every year. It’s a wrap-up of what worked, what didn’t. what lessons were learnt, what’s being left in the old year. I’m a project manager by trade so I guess this is a bit like a post implementation review. Then I set my intentions – usally a week or so into the New Year. This year (and last year) I went an extra step and also reviewed my business strategy for my writing business. My biggest thing is having to keep it somewhere I can see it and focus on it. I’m the ultimate Piscean with the attention span to match! Happy New Year to you.

    • I love the idea of calling the review process a closing ceremony. In my days as a social worker I was regularly involved in case reviews, as a tool to decide on the next step or learning from when a case was closed. I’ve seen people get all creative with there strategies and turn them into revolving screen savers on their computer.

  • Great word. And great tips – I especially like the questions to ask yourself about 2017. #teamlovinlife

    • I think a process like this always needs to be started with questions. Otherwise how do you know what you want to do differently?

  • Love the reflection you’ve outlined here Jenni. I usually set a few goals but I’ve also taken to choosing a word which encompasses them. My word for 2018 is SEEK, as it sums up my motto, which is “Find a way to make it happen”! May 2018 bring everything you wish for 🙂 #TeamLovinLife

    • Reflection is often a step that is missed in goal/resolutions planning sessions. Which I find really odd, because how are you going to know what you want if you don’t reflect on what has been? I love your motto “find a way to make it happen”

  • Kathy Marris

    Yes I couldn’t agree more about maybe not making any hasty decisions or resolutions until you settle back into your normal routine following the Christmas/New Year period. I wrote about this exact subject on last week’s linky and I believe resolutions aren’t such a great idea, but instead focus on one thing (or word) for the year and take tiny steps at a time to achieve your goals.

    • I totally agree, resolutions/goals will only be achieved, if approached one at a time and with well thought out plan that includes small achievable steps.