ARE YOU BEING SWALLOWED BY THE BUSYNESS MYTH?

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Do you feel that there is an underlying pressure to increase the number of things you fit into your day? I’m noticing more and more that when I ask someone how they are, the automatic response is that they are extremely busy. There seems to be this misconception that unless you are continually doing something, you are not important, are not an achiever and don’t have a fulfilling life.

 

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Photo by Ales Krivec on Unsplash

THE BUSYNESS FACTS

  • There are only 24hrs in each day and no matter how well you organise your time, this will not change.
  • Focusing your attention on one thing at a time is more efficient, than juggling lots of things at once.
  • Being busy and being productive are two very different things.
  • Being too busy is not the reason why you don’t do things. It’s the excuse that you use when you don’t what to do something and have chosen to do something else instead. This identifies what your true priorities were at that time.
  • That overwhelming feeling you get when you are continually chasing the clock, only occurs when you are filling your time with the just stuff, that is not important to you. Rather than, using your time to focus on your priorities.
  • When you have lots to do, is often when you are more likely to do nothing, rather than be more productive.
  • You are what you consistently do, rather than what you say you want to do.
  • The solutions you find in the midst of busyness are short-term fixes, rather than long-term
  • Technology is likely to be the biggest consumer of your time, rather than a time-saving

 

IT’S YOUR TIME & NO ONE ELSE’S

The only way to stop feeling as though you are being chased by the clock, is to take control of your time and start saying no to things that are not important to you.  You don’t have to be available to everyone, every hour of the day and it’s ok to make you the priority. Fulfilment is nothing to do with how little or how much you do in a day. It’s what you are doing that provides the sense of contentment.

 

Who controls your time?

 

Jenni XXX

  • sydneyshopgirl

    That last point. I’m cringing because it’s so true for me. Technology is the biggest consumer of my free time…

    SSG xxx

    • If that’s what you want to be doing with your down time, that’s ok. When it starts to swallow up all of your time and stops you from doing things that are more important, is when it becomes a problem. Building the blog into business, I do need to spend lots of time online, but then it started taking over everything. Now i’m really clear about what activities online are for the business and for my downtime and that way I stay focused on work in the time that i’ve booked in to do work.

  • I definitely need to get better at saying no. As a people pleaser I find it hard to do.

    Ingrid
    http://www.fabulousandfunlife.blogspot.com.au

    • Ingrid, I think it’s something that we’ve all struggled with at some time. Once you work out what your priorities are, it will be easier to be more selective.

      • You’re definitely right! I need to work out what MY priorities are and not what the priorities of my family, my work and everyone else that places demands on my time are.

  • I work 3-4 days a week (I did used to work full-time) & I write fiction, plus create content for my blogs. I still make time for family & social stuff, but every so often have to stop and breathe. I’m busy, but also extremely productive – I create output. My priorities are my family, paid work & my fiction…in that order. I’m naturally a people pleaser but have learnt to say no – unless I want to say yes.

    • Jo, you certainly jam a lot into your day’s and that’s great if it’s things that you really want to be doing.

      • I made a decision a few years ago that one day I want to be making a full-time living from my writing – everything else is what I have to do to get there. Then I’ll leave the day job behind with a great big smile.

  • It’s been a long time now since anyone other than me has controlled my time as I am now retired. Before then it was a University, some grandchildren, and responsibilities with the family. But way before THAT was over 40 years of teaching and leading in schools. I know that as I am the kind of person I am I left very little time for me back then which explains the way in which I crashed and burned. And we did not even have social media then, Glad to be a lot more free these days! But it still took me a long time to get used to that as well. Thank you for linking up for #lifethisweek 45/52. Next Week: Best Birthday Ever.

    • Denyse, i’m not surprised it took you a long while to adjust to having lots of down time, after giving so much to the next generations. I think most of us in the 45+ age bracket were brought up to be doers and taking time for yourself was never seen as a priority. Hopefully, this is something that we can pass on to the next generations?

  • Kathy Marris

    I actually tend to do better when I’m busy rather than not. I think it’s from the years of working in admin and having to juggle many tasks at once. Now that I only work part-time I tend waste a lot time stuffing around rather than getting on with it. I think I control most of my time, but just not as well as I should! #TeamLovinLife

    • Is it actually stuffing around, or enjoying being able to take things at a slower pace? Who say’s you need to control your time better?

  • I think I control my time Jenni but know what you mean about being sucked into the perception that busier is better. I’m more able now to be blunt about the fact that I’m not busy (well, I wasn’t at all when I didn’t work full time) and was occasionally bored. #teamlovinlife

    • I wonder if the feeling of being bored, is actually when there is a struggle to be comfortable, in not be doing anything in particular.

  • I learned a lesson about busyness when a friend had something horrible happen in their life and they said they didn’t want to bother me because I’m always so busy. She didn’t mean to make me felt like a shocking human, but I did. What’s the point of any of it if the people I love don’t feel they can count on me? It changed my thinking about busy ever since. I loved this post. Great work.

  • My priorities are my health, family, friends, and self-initiated fun activities… in that order. I’m comfortable with having a half-blank calendar and have no guilt whatsoever if I decide to take a nap, or just sit and relax.

  • I agree with you Jenni – we are all SO BUSY! This time of year seems to be the worst. I’m certainly looking forward to a little time off in January, so I can NOT be busy for a while 🙂 #TeamLovinLife